I finally got around to defriending some people today. I unfollowed many of them awhile ago, but I finally figured out how to defriend people via mobile app today (shut up—I re-downloaded it a week ago; still figuring shit out. Not the standalone Messenger app, though, because fuck that shit). I noticed only one defriending I didn’t have to do myself (kinda funny, because most of what I did was post links supporting my opinion, as well as quote said links, more or less, but good riddance). Some people may look at this and say, “Well, you shouldn’t have posted anything, to which I say, “Uh…fuck that noise…HARD.”
I can understand why white people—particularly those who grew up in the suburbs, as I did—get defensive, though. From the time we were in elementary school, we regularly had a police officer come in. We were told to call him (it was always a “him”) “Officer Friendly”. This, for me, also coincided with the Just Say No era, in which we were taught trying drugs once—JUST ONCE!—was the absolute *worst* thing you could do. Now, a lot of us have come to realize that isn’t quite so, & that smoking a joint—even a few joints—isn’t likely to lead to much for most people. But yet, so many white people are willing to take the words of those of law enforcement (whether it’s because they know a cop, are cops themselves, etc.) over an average citizen. Doesn’t have to be a member of a minority group, but it seems to me that, for some reason, that if that’s so, the “I’m not a racist, but…” card goes on overdrive.
And that’s where I go on my friends list & say, “Bye, Felicia!” as I defriend people.
Also note how many said people are also told to be wary of those that are different than themselves and the closed social groups along with all the baggage involving white flight among other things and the idea that there is such a thing as structural racism or white privledge even exists is very offensive to some. (I basically was told by some that i was a self hating white person for noting it exists) These issues are actually a big reason why the healthcare system and lack of social safety net exists in the US, mainly structural racism and the idea of the welfare queen stereotype.